Book Scott to Speak

Most of us were never taught how to be intimate. We were handed silence, shame, or a highlight reel — and then left to figure out the most important part of our relationships entirely on our own. In this talk, Scott makes a disarming and freeing case: intimacy isn't a test we're failing, it's a skill we were never taught. Drawing on his book Guided and his background in performance psychology, he reframes desire, connection, and being truly seen as things any couple can learn, practice, and deepen — with the right guide. Honest, funny, and surprisingly practical, this talk gives audiences permission to stop pretending they should already know, and a real path toward the closeness they've been quietly longing for.

What actually creates closeness between two people? Not candlelight or technique — something deeper and more learnable. Drawing on his Master's in Performance Psychology, Scott unpacks the real mechanics of connection: how desire actually works, why being seen matters more than being impressive, and why the most profound intimacy is psychological long before it's physical. He breaks down the difference between chasing sensation and creating genuine encounter — and why so many couples feel close yet unmet. Grounded in research but told with warmth and humor, this talk gives audiences a new lens on their own relationships and a language for the connection they've been missing.

Technology has reshaped how we work, sleep, move, and meditate — so why not how we connect intimately? In this talk, Scott shares the story behind Coelle and the emerging category of guided audio intimacy: how sound, intention, and gentle guidance can help couples slow down, get out of their heads, and genuinely arrive with each other. Part vision, part practical roadmap, he explores why so many couples default to rushed, distracted, autopilot intimacy — and how a guided approach creates the space for presence and real connection instead. Audiences leave with a fresh sense of what's possible for modern intimacy, and permission to be beginners at it again.